There’s a common misconception that February—specifically Valentine’s Day—is the pinnacle of romance, a day to look forward to as one of the most important in a relationship. Yet, the immense pressure placed on a single day often leads to disappointment. Valentine’s Day is rarely “perfect,” and for many, it isn’t even enjoyable, regardless of relationship status. The buildup deceives us, much like other holidays, only for the actual day to feel underwhelming.
Even as someone born in February, I have to admit: it’s not as romantic as people make it out to be. Sandwiched between the stress of exams and course selections, it’s difficult to carve out time to plan a “perfect” day. While many couples do something small, Valentine’s Day doesn’t necessarily stand out from the rest. The fear of failing to create a special moment, coupled with busy schedules, often affects the experience. And once it’s over, there’s nothing else to look forward to. One day. A hit or miss.
December, on the other hand, is filled with holidays, time off, and festive events. With fewer academic and work-related stressors, there’s more room to focus on simply enjoying time together. The abundance of seasonal activities makes date planning effortless—ice skating, holiday markets, cozy movie nights. There’s no shortage of ways to create meaningful memories. Any day in December can feel romantic.
Beyond logistics, December sets the perfect scene for romance. Holiday movies are filled with love stories set against picturesque backdrops of twinkling lights and gently falling snow. The season itself fosters warmth and closeness. In contrast, February is often associated with dreary weather and a forced sense of obligation. Aesthetic matters when it comes to idealized romance, and December undeniably wins in that department.
More than anything, I dislike the controlled atmosphere of Valentine’s Day. It often feels like an obligation rather than a natural expression of love. Instead of celebrating simply because you want to, there’s an underlying pressure to meet certain expectations. Valentine’s Day has become entangled with consumerism, shifting away from its original sentiment. While it can be romantic, it frequently feels forced. December, in contrast, allows couples to enjoy their time together organically, without external pressures dictating what romance should look like.
And for those who are single, December is far easier to romanticize. The entire month carries a festive energy that isn’t tied to relationship status. Valentine’s Day, however, can be isolating, a single day that amplifies loneliness for some. December’s magic exists independently of whether you’re in a relationship, making it a more universally enjoyable time.
With its unique charm, festive spirit, and effortless romantic atmosphere, December outshines February in every way when it comes to relationships. Nothing compares to its warmth, spontaneity, and genuine magic—certainly not the rigid expectations of a so-called “romantic” holiday.